No decision a PUD commissioner will make will be related
to abortion pro or con, so I am not sure it should be an
issue in this campaign.
Given that, I do have
respect for all life including the preborn. And I
believe that every mother should be supported in having
her baby even under the most difficult situations. In
1969 my Catholic wife and I took on the responsibility
for a life.
A baby boy was born to a woman who
could have easily chosen an abortion. She was single,
already with five children, two of which had
developmental problems, one was hydrocephalic, and she
was told this baby would have problems. She didn't like
the father, and she was fragile meaning she was
extremely depressed but we are very grateful that she
was strong enough and had enough support to bring the
baby to into the world alive.
We became that
baby's foster parents when he was a month old and the
mother tried to commit suicide. We thought that we
would give him a good start and turn him over to her
when she was well enough. After a couple of years she
asked if we would be willing to adopt him. By that time
we had bonded with him and did not want to give him up.
We thanked her and proceeded with the adoption.
It hasn't been easy raising Greg. He's not "normal".
When he starts speaking people can tell right away that
he has speech problems. He has not learned to read. At
five years old he was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy
and that lasted five scary years until we learned that
the diagnosis was wrong. At 12 he had open heart surgery
to repair a heart valve. We have spent a fortune on
special tutoring and therapy.
Sometimes we felt
it wasn't fair that we had to spend so much time and
money on him and that people didn't always welcome us
because he was different than their children. But the
lessons we learned and how we grew while raising Greg
have been worth it. We learned to be patient, to slow
down and to quit worrying about appearances and most of
all we learned it's best to love first and fix later.
The happy ending is that Greg has turned out to be a
fine man. He's 43, has worked part-time for the City of
Vancouver for 12 years, lives in his own apartment,
plans to marry his girl friend next year and is usually
a happy fellow. He loves to operate our tractor when he
stays with us on weekends.
Greg has been a true
gift to us and we look back and thank God that his birth
mother cared enough about him to allow him to be born
and allowed us to adopt him.